Parents influence on your career choices

From the moment we start speaking we dream, aim, wish, want, say what we want to do. ‘I’m going to be a doctor, pilot, airhostess, vet so on. These ambition changes throughout the growing age but why is that? Is it because we have explored the horizons and met another interest or is it because you force yourself to amend your interest or is it purely because you’re forced to? Whatever the answer we all drive our self to meet a certain expectation either it is simply for yourself or your parents.

As a young teen myself, I have always felt the pressure to make my parents proud, I would actually say that would be one’s primary objective of life - not to disappoint your mother and father.  The pressure of aspiration to make the parents proud is something we have all felt in one stage of our life without a doubt. Living in a society where pride comes before choices, interest or simply some ones happiness which influences our choosing’s significantly, whatever the choices are - from simple things like our appearance to greater matters of life - ones education. After all our parents’ approval seems to matter so much but how does this affect you?

It’s, fair to say we over represent in some occupations (e.g. science, professional, and technology) which are probably the most accepted and respected fields in our society while being underrepresented in others (e.g., production, entertaining, social and humanistic Field) which are not the most model choices.

Some of us might choose our career based on our family’s mission rather than our own interests which may be just the way to prevent any intergeneration conflict and to fulfil family obligation. The idea of wealth equalling success is a common emblem in our culture. Of course, there are those ones for whom accountancy, medicine, law and science are the right career paths but I know some chose these very same careers out of interest to maybe embark on under a significant dose of family pressure.

It’s certainly not a case of saying, ‘Don’t listen to your family.’ But like doctors, parents aren’t always right. Even in this changed generation I see lots of young Nepalese going out to win their parent’s heart regardless of their own interests than again there are those daring and lucky ones who follow their heart.

It’s very sad to see cases where someone is so gifted like for example ‘someone can really sing but will drop the dream to go for the safer choice, a choice approved by their parents’ what a waste of talent, I say but it’s true that parents only wants the best for their child and will think they know the best for them all the time. However are they always right? What do you think?

Times are coming to a change which means we are out there for ourselves more than anything else. Our generation are becoming more imaginative in their career choices. Whether you end up as a doctor or a dancer, fulfillment is the key!  MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION FOR YOURSELF NO ONE ELSE. Thats what i say to MYSELF.

Are you going to value your interest or your parents? Or should our parents value our interests? 

NEPALESE OBBSESSION WITH THE SKINNY LOOK

Todays world seems to be all about looks, where ever we go we are surrounded by so called perfect celebrities, actors, models, singers, TV hosts with perfect bodies….But something I have found in our Nepalese Society is our obsession with skinny slim bodies and our ignorance to recognize the beauty of curves .I’m not trying to discourage the beauty of a healthy slim figure but why doesn’t our society appreciate bigger sizes?

This was something I noticed or realised, when I went bride hunting for my mama (uncle) and two beautiful ladies were shown; the younger sister was slimmer but the elder sister was the real beauty for me with a charming smile and beautiful curves and I’m not being bias and favouring the curvy one because I myself being big sized but the curves I admired, my mama (uncle) and aunties classed as ‘FATNESS’.

We turn a blind eye when it comes to appreciating feminine curves like Beyoncé’s. I don’t think this is an issue which might only occur rarely. Instead I would say this is actually a difficult issue that most of us chubby, bigger sized, curvaceous, voluptuous women of Nepalese race specially go through.

No matter how much you’re comfortable about yourself – a few shallow repeated harsh criticisms do affect even the most body confident person causing constant source of dissatisfaction and distress.

Parents nagging ‘tah motayish talai kosley bihey garcha?(Your putting on weight whose going to marry you ?) it’s understandable their fear and I don’t blame them because grooms do seem to prefer a skinny looking girl  but is that right? – A son in law who’s more into looks then the person. Isn’t it the personality that’s meant to capture one’s heart?

We just don’t seem to understand! I swear Beyoncé would be labelled as fat, its because we Nepalese are not so used to seeing a Va-Va Voom figures oozing with confidence 

and the likes of Posh and Cheryl would be the ideal size for most Nepalese girls.

It’s very uncommon to see curvaceous girls walking round in the high streets of Nepal instead we are more familiar with very petite skinny girls.

Even The runways have changed we see a growing number of women of different sizes. The new movement now means we see real women’s in front covers of Magazines more often rather than stick thin sickly looking model but is the attitudes towards bigger figure ever going to change in our society?

Teenagers are obsessed with their bodies, making one wonder what
 are the main priorities of life. I see bainies and Di Di’s(sisters) around me skipping their lunch to maintain their figure don’t get me wrong I’m not saying being overweight is good but should these girls starve themselves - wrecking their health in their growing age .Shouldn’t we approach a more healthier and sensible way to achieve our goal. Some complain about not growing tall but I wonder is this due to something lacking in their diet?

 I think our society’s persistent preferment of the idealisation of thinness has put girls of all ages under extreme pressure to strive after the accomplishment of body perfection. 

But who’s to blame for all these - is it the commercial world or the narrow minded people around us?

Can we change the minds of our stubborn elderly’s and some young ones? Or are we going to see more girls starving themselves to achieve the so called perfect size.

Do you think size zero is sexy, and do you wish you were that thin?

Or do you think it sets a bad example for young girls?

Should women on the catwalk be a range of sizes, and represent real women more accurately?

I personally think as long as someone is happy with the way they look than that is Brilliant , there’s no need to satisfy those who can’t accept some one for who they are.

Check this Size zero Hottie

The highest earning super model Gisele .

Check out this curvaceous beauty !

The Va- Va Voom Hottie Kim knows how to show off her curves with hugging fabrics !

The pluszise singing sensation is a FINE example

Beautiful Adele is a Role model for bigger women with her great confidence.

Have your say below 

Sarala :O) 

Anonymous Blogs

Well lately many individuals or groups of people have started the art of anonymous blogging - A pretty clever way of getting the message across but staying out of any trouble. They been loved by many but at the same time hated by many.

I actually had people accusing me of running the popular blogs like Miss Guffadi apparently he/she /they speak like  I do and it mentioned me a few many times on it  or because I talk on the radio – was quite annoying with people pestering you with the same questions ‘are you miss guffadi? ’and Chuplagg because uurrr don’t know why but me I would have liked to take credit for the incredible ideas so if it was me, I wouldn’t stay anonymous because I wouldn’t be able to keep my mouth shut .

Some of the posts by these bloggers are just so engaging and amusing to read doing a pretty good job of entertaining bored peeps. They say exactly what’s on their mind but not to your faces though. Poking their unwanted noses in other peoples businesses but keeping their noses clean and keeping their readers hooked, people are more inclined to take “discovering the blogger’s true identity” as their sole mission.

However, there’s a limit to everything and when its crossed it gets quite NaSSTTYY, it’s totally understandable if one has put themself in a public outlet but those poor ones victimised just because these anonymous bloggers have run out of topics to blog about sparking furious exchanges amongst people who attack each other’s' identifications, motives, professionalism - or right to exist. It’s always interesting reading about others but not when it’s about you.

But my question is should we have any respect for anyone who launches hurtful attacks without having the courage to reveal their own identity?

I would class some posts as a method of Cyber bullying I didn't think blogging was supposed to be Cowardice and a method Bullying. These anonymous blogs has become a medium for an exchange place for people to share their evil thoughts and intimidate people and I guess the saying is true words hurt more than actions. I don’t know if all will agree with me but I find myself wondering about the ones who leave you all the harsh, hurtful spiteful words that get to you even if you say to yourself don’t take it seriously but those words seem to haunt your mind.

Anyways All good things must eventually come to an end, including the anonymity of a blog. It may not happen tomorrow, or next month, or even next year, but it’s inevitable. So whoever you Geniuses are, get ready to be caught.

Yuva Vives Featuring Dj raju

For this week’s show(06.04.11) we have a special musical guest all the way from Nepal DJ  Raju and will also be releasing a new song by the NepHop UK a Nepalese boy band .

For the ones who are unaware about what Yuva Vibes is then Yuva Vibes is fortnightly zoo format radio show hosted by young Nepalese youth in Folkestone Kent which goes on air through BFBS Ghurkha radio studio in shornecliff from 5 to 7pm.

Also, get involved in  ‘Aau Guff garum ‘ our phone in segment from 6 - 7pm and share your thoughts, request dedications and just have a chat with the hosts. 

Number to call - 01303 225779

Listen online on http://www.bfbs-radio.com/pages/extranet/bfbs-gurkha-radio-c-119.php

My music video

Do check out the video to a beautiful contemporary slow rock song by Full Circle -- 'MAYA' meaning love.
It's a short educational music video that I have made for my media project trying to raise awareness of an issue which we are very familiar with nowadays 'teenage pregnancy' but in our society we choose to ignore the issue.

The video tells a story of a young Nepalese girl who gets pregnant and her hurdles in life after her pregnancy and how her child is everything to her after the baby's arrival as her loved ones choose to neglect and abandon her on a difficult time like that.

The video itself is very average and shot with minimal resources and unprofessional actors as myself playing the part of the mother but anyways I hope the message gets across.

Please do note that I'm not trying to insult our Nepali culture through the video or nor am I encouraging teenage pregnancy but I felt that as we now are living in a very westernised society and we should be open minded about the matters like this.
Through this video I wanted to just explore the penalties of cases like this in our community like being disowned by parent's .e.t.c

Do watch it and leave your thought on it .x