From the moment we start speaking we dream, aim, wish, want, say what we want to do. ‘I’m going to be a doctor, pilot, airhostess, vet so on. These ambition changes throughout the growing age but why is that? Is it because we have explored the horizons and met another interest or is it because you force yourself to amend your interest or is it purely because you’re forced to? Whatever the answer we all drive our self to meet a certain expectation either it is simply for yourself or your parents.
As a young teen myself, I have always felt the pressure to make my parents proud, I would actually say that would be one’s primary objective of life - not to disappoint your mother and father. The pressure of aspiration to make the parents proud is something we have all felt in one stage of our life without a doubt. Living in a society where pride comes before choices, interest or simply some ones happiness which influences our choosing’s significantly, whatever the choices are - from simple things like our appearance to greater matters of life - ones education. After all our parents’ approval seems to matter so much but how does this affect you?
It’s, fair to say we over represent in some occupations (e.g. science, professional, and technology) which are probably the most accepted and respected fields in our society while being underrepresented in others (e.g., production, entertaining, social and humanistic Field) which are not the most model choices.
Some of us might choose our career based on our family’s mission rather than our own interests which may be just the way to prevent any intergeneration conflict and to fulfil family obligation. The idea of wealth equalling success is a common emblem in our culture. Of course, there are those ones for whom accountancy, medicine, law and science are the right career paths but I know some chose these very same careers out of interest to maybe embark on under a significant dose of family pressure.
It’s certainly not a case of saying, ‘Don’t listen to your family.’ But like doctors, parents aren’t always right. Even in this changed generation I see lots of young Nepalese going out to win their parent’s heart regardless of their own interests than again there are those daring and lucky ones who follow their heart.
It’s very sad to see cases where someone is so gifted like for example ‘someone can really sing but will drop the dream to go for the safer choice, a choice approved by their parents’ what a waste of talent, I say but it’s true that parents only wants the best for their child and will think they know the best for them all the time. However are they always right? What do you think?
Times are coming to a change which means we are out there for ourselves more than anything else. Our generation are becoming more imaginative in their career choices. Whether you end up as a doctor or a dancer, fulfillment is the key! MAKE THE RIGHT DECISION FOR YOURSELF NO ONE ELSE. Thats what i say to MYSELF.
Are you going to value your interest or your parents? Or should our parents value our interests?
very true post! exactly what i am thinking. since an young age we nepalis have been pressurized by parents to become doctors, engineers, etc, like we have no other choice.. it pisses me off so much.. I know parents care about our future and think being a doctor/engineer will give us a safe future financially, but it also seems that their pride in society has a lot to do with it, to the point that you start to think it is not for our own future, but for how we look in society! The only way to succeed in life is by making a choice that makes you happy and allows you to live well enough, and your parents should be happy for you! That's it. I hope this ignorant state of mind will change with our upcoming generations!
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